Lately, I keep hearing how fortunate I am to be living in a battleground state (Ohio) for the upcoming elections. My vote counts for the presidential election*.
However, I find myself wishing I could vote in California next week instead. I grew up there and helped Proposition 22 pass 8 years ago by an overwhelming majority. It has since been overturned by the state supreme court and Proposition 8 is on the ballot this year so we can get it back on the books.
It’s an issue I care deeply about. So often voting is between two candidates, each with strengths and weaknesses, good ideas and bad ideas… or voting is about issues that don’t sit very close to home. How much money to allocate to road work as opposed to water treatment, or how many signatures are required on an official petition. I know those issues are important to many people, but they aren’t to me and my family. Proposition 8 is the most important thing on CA’s ballot next week and although I know it will affect the rest of the country in a very direct way, I feel helpless out here in Ohio. I’ve donated money, I’m posting my views publicly on my blog (and for the first time, I find myself wishing my readership was larger). 😉
To be clear: I don’t have anything against people who are gay, though I haven’t happened to know very many gay people personally. I feel that committed relationships should have legal rights, hospital visitation rights, etc. I know several pairs of women who live together, as great friends. The women are single, and not gay, but have been friends for decades and are the closest thing to family. I think they should have an avenue available to pursue “committed relationship” rights, as well.
Proposition 8 isn’t about that.
It is about the institution of marriage. I believe that God ordained marriage to be between a man and a woman. Period. Children deserve to grow up in a home with both a mother and a father, wherever possible. Gender is an eternal characteristic and my womanhood and motherhood are very precious to me. I don’t want a genderless society where God-given roles are indistinct. I want my daughter to grow up seeing a clear path to bearing children of her own with a loving husband and father. I think it’s the best way to keep a stable, family-centered society.
The Proposition is short and sweet and you can read it right here:
“Only marriage between a man and a woman is valid or recognized in California.”
That’s it. Nothing confusing or malicious. Just a simple statement of the definition of marriage. But it means everything to me, my family, and the future of our culture.
Random Thoughts In My Head Right Now: I’m not saying that gay couples can’t have committed relationships. I have no right to say that, and neither does the government. But a marriage is between a man and a woman. It always has been, and marriages are the building blocks for child-rearing. When we mess with the foundation of society just because we don’t want to step on someone’s toes, I think we’re not being honest with ourselves. “Hey just let everybody do whatever they want” is NOT the reasoning behind America. It was people coming together for a common good and establishing laws and government to help stabilize and direct society in a productive direction. Changing the definition of marriage uproots deeply held religious beliefs and societal norms and to what end?
*Ironically, I still haven’t decided who I’m voting for as both major candidates have significant drawbacks, and I feel like I’m having to compromise no matter which way I vote. But that’s another post entirely. And, that post will never come to be because this blog is almost never political.