We don’t like to talk about specific names before a baby is born, except within our immediate family. We find out the gender ahead of time, so the name is one “surprise” we like to hold onto until birth. People also feel more free to give opinions on a name before the baby is born, and I’d rather just people smile and nod if they happen to not love the name we choose. 🙂
Additionally, there’s always the chance that the new baby will strike me as a better fit for one name than another. We chose the name Mackenzie before she was born, but right there in the delivery room it seemed to fit and that extra assurance was a bit of a relief!
I’ve been actively looking through baby names lately, hoping to stumble on one that works with our last name, with our naming philosophy and that both Scott and I like. Tricky business, that.
Bean is a fantastic last name, but it does cause one pause when selecting a first name.
Irene Bean? No can do.
Kail Bean? Oh you know that’s tempting, but we’ll probably have to leave the produce department for the first name.
We tend to like more traditional names (Mackenzie being a rare exception) and are especially adamant about spelling names “normally”. I’d rather have my son know two other Johns than have to explain his entire life that his name has an extra “n” in it and no “h”. J – O – N – N . I know people in the opposite camp, who want their child to have a unique name and I can respect that. However, we’re so firm on this point that it’s actually caused us to dismiss a few potential names because we couldn’t agree on what the “normal” spelling is!
The contested middle name
I had no middle name before I got married, and now I use my maiden name as my middle name. I love it that way.
Mackenzie has no middle name.
But Scott has a middle name he likes for baby #2. I contend that you can’t give ONE daughter a middle name and not another. How would we explain that to them? Of course, I’m also biased and would prefer all of our daughters to be middle-name-less.
Our daughter, the son
The meaning and origin of the name are far less important to us, though I have gotten desperate enough this time around to check the meaning just in case that makes the name more endearing to me. Unfortunately, I also made the mistake of checking the meaning of names I already liked! Bad move, as it turns out.
I knew that Mackenzie was Scottish and that’s one of the reasons I liked it. However, I just discovered that Mackenzie means “Son of Kenneth”. Nice. Hopefully that won’t cause her pain later in life when she looks for some rich meaning in her name.
Kenzie, one of our many nicknames for her, means “descendant of the handsome man”. I think we’ll go with that meaning instead.
“Honey, your dad was so good-looking, we wanted to choose a name for you that reflected that.”
Can you tell the naming pressure is getting to me? Any name suggestions?