I’m still working on getting Lauren’s birth story written, but I wanted to give a heads up that my blog is going to change pretty dramatically here soon.
What I think I’ll do is make lots of old posts private, meaning they won’t show up on search engines and they won’t be visible to anyone but me.
I’ve been writing in this space for 12 years. It’s been sporadic lately, but in total I’ve published 627 posts, and they are still getting traffic from search engines and other sites, plus hits from people who browse my site archives.
I wrote posts about becoming a parent, starting homeschooling, switching to a plant-based diet, and many many other things over the years. Perhaps predictably, my views on many of these things have changed over time. I’ve matured (I hope!) and mellowed with experience and I no longer feel like I agree with some of the things I wrote in years past. Specifically:
- I would not recommend starting homeschool the way I did! I did too much too soon, worried about the wrong things, and didn’t soak up the childishness of my first child as much as I would have liked. Someone looking for homeschooling help may read those posts and follow my (bad) example. I’d much rather they read posts like this one: Dear Mom who wants to give her 5-year-old a classical education . It could be that everyone has to learn the way I did, by trial and error, but I hate to steer them into error.
- I would not recommend teaching your 3 year old to read while she cries and engages in power struggles. I still think that was the *right call for the particular child I wrote about, but I would not (and haven’t) take(n) that route with my other kids and I am continually surprised by how much traffic my old posts about that experience get. Seven years later, the child in question is a voracious reader and we have a great relationship. So no harm was done, but I still would not recommend that approach to a broad audience… yet that is what my blog still does because the Internet doesn’t forget. *This child still tends to get emotional with really hard things (advanced math puzzles now, which she loves) but she and I are now on the same team instead of on opposite ends of the table. I learned how to make that happen through the process of teaching her to read.
- We still eat a predominantly plant-based diet but my recipes have gotten better with more years of experience. I would no longer recommend some of my old recipes because there are simpler, more delicious ones out there. 🙂
I had a bit of an epiphany with my daughter last week when she was struggling to write something for a school assignment. I told her it didn’t have to perfect or permanent, and that that piece of writing could be as private or as public as she wanted. She breathed a sigh of relief when I suggested that we could delete it after she wrote it, if she decided that’s what she preferred. When she felt that weight of permanency off her shoulders, she started writing and ended up being happy enough with it that she shared it with the family.
When it comes to my kids and messes, I often think how easily stuff gets wiped clean and we get a fresh start. Even a big mess is relatively temporary.
That said, I don’t want to delete the whole blog. Instead, I’d like to keep some older content up, and hopefully get back to posting more regularly. I believe that having the option of privatizing any old stuff will help me post more.
I enjoy having this space for reflection and for keeping far-flung family and friends a little more connected. I would also love it if I could encourage others on their parenting / homeschool / healthy-eating paths through what I write, and I think keep content fresh will better accomplish that aim.